Proverbs 31:10
Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies.
I love the woman. Not just because I am a woman, but because she's another one of God's most remarkable works of art. Pulled from the man to be a capable co-partner for him and to assist in meeting the demands of this grand luxe garden called Eden.
The architecture of a woman is simply divine. Not only was the woman sculpted in such a way to appeal to man's eyes, but also in a way to receive the man's seed.
Ultimately launching this momentous phenomenon; childbirth.
Her womb is God's canvas. A literal stage where He continues His poetry in motion.
Isn't that something?
I remember crawling through the Baptist door of the Christian faith at the tender age of 22 and how my introduction to a pathological fascination for the archetypal Proverbs 31:10 woman would quickly follow.
A large portion of the early stages of my faith-walk actually involved my aspirations to be a virtuous woman, and not necessarily to be Christlike.
This mindset is what sent me down an exhausting road of a works based relationship with God. Now you may be thinking, "Tanzy, what's the matter with that? I thought faith without works is dead?"(James 2:26)
I tell you, yes. Yet, works with faith in something else other than Jesus is, IDOLATRY.
OOOOoOOOOHHH!!
*And the crowd goes craaaazy!*
Ha!
Here we go with that idolatry word again. I know. I know. But just because it keeps popping up in different ways doesn't mean it shouldn't be addressed.
Anyway, I as well as a host of other women around me at that time were in a feverish pursuit to be this seemingly amazing woman,
("more amazing than ourselves")
so that we could eventually be found by a noble character of a man.
We made her a hallmark. Drowning in discouragement, disappointment, and depression, while killing ourselves to fit the bill of this woman.
So who is she, again? The bible says she's industrious, she's a business woman, a great negotiator and great communicator, a nurturer, considerate, highly respected, compassionate, ethical, hard working, creative, honorable, proactive, and last but not least, God fearing.
I believe I can pin-point just how the misconception came to being and mutated into a mandate that meant neglecting all of our personal outside affairs to delve deeply into the cares of the church while disregarding the consequences of replacing our affections in Christ with that of a composite of a woman.
I believe this was triggered by twisted teaching, titillating our desires to be married and nothing else. Thus rendering us slaves to the church and our own fantasies.
Listen to me, the Proverbs 31:10 woman is not a directive of what a woman should be but an advertisement of who she already is, in God!
Does that make sense?
If you re-read the description I shared above of who this woman is, something should resonate with you. You shouldn't be taken aback as if it's foreign.
Proverbs 31:10, is not a biblical Mona Lisa or portrait of some random woman.
It's YOUR selfie!
When you're in God and extending your efforts to be close to Him, your virtuousness is inevitable.
Proverbs 31:10, is none other than the female extension of the fruit of the spirit.
It's not a to do list of goals that you must check off once you've met them.
Now, believe it or not, I've only scratched the surface.
You want to go deep sea diving with me?
One day, I was talking to a close friend and we were discussing the origins of some of our toxic behaviors. Not sure exactly how we got on the topic but it was an interesting one to say the least.
My friend opened up to me that she was always an over achiever who worked hard to excel in school and in church. She recognized at a young age that she was really good at delegating and being a leader.
She decided to thrive in this realization.
When an event at her church was in the works, she was selected by her leaders to take charge.
Of course she was elated because she would be doing what she knew she was capable of. However, she'd so happened to overhear a disgruntled adult expressing their disdain for the choice made in placing her in that particular role.
Their words, "There are other kids who are just as capable. Why wasn't one of them chosen?"
This revelation crushed her spirits to the point she took it upon herself, going forward to step back. She would purposely dim her light and dumb herself down to appease the others.
She noticed that this behavior didn't go away but grew up with her and turned into a stronghold.
In her sharing her truth, I could hear my own stronghold squealing like a pig ready for slaughter.
I grew up practically with the same happy go lucky attitude to excel and be a leader of sorts.
I was also an over achiever with unrelenting passion.
My issue was, because my dad suffered from a drug addiction and my mom suffered from depression since she had to bear the burden of being a mother and surrogate father at the same time, there was no place for me neither my siblings to be emotionally nurtured and tended to. I realized early, that if I performed really well at whatever I set my focus on,
I would be granted some attention.
Even though it would be like being drip fed love and affection, I still craved this little amount. And just like my friend, my issue grew up with me, following me to the church house. There is where I noticed if I performed favorably on a regular basis, my longings for love and affection would be satiated by the authority figures in my church and a potential husband of whom I thought would be bequeathed to me because of good works.
I moved this way for years.
My God! Me and my friend came to the conclusion that whatever a woman doesn't receive from her parents during the foundational phases of her life or is stripped of at that stage, corruption will almost certainly seep into her spirit and hinge itself to her personality.
Ezekial 16:8
Then I passed by you and saw you, and you were indeed at the age for love. So I spread the edge of my garment over you and covered your nakedness. I pledged myself to you, entered into a covenant with you—this is the declaration of the Lord God—and you became mine.
A scripture that will forever be a favorite of mine, exemplifies God's loving kindness and compassion. He's so ever mindful of us and desires to take special care of His children.
God dotes on His daughters and He is very protective.
It pains Him to see us misguided and misled.
He's coming after us with intense tender love and care to gird us up and strengthen us.
To my women of God reading this right now, I extend encouragement to you.
Hold your head up high beautiful darlings!
Let the light of Jesus shine on your lovely faces!
You are already a virtuous woman. You are already all that and a bag of hot funions! Haha!
Your mission should not be encased by none other than a desire to be like Christ.
You have already been engraved with unique attributes.
And whoever notices, splendid! Whoever doesn't, all's well! Nothing can take away from this fact that you were indeed fearfully and wonderfully made.
You can always be better than who you are. But you will never be less than who God already made you to be, unless you choose to be.
Nothing is wrong with being a ministerial instrument, just be careful not to abandon your personal affairs especially that which involves the upkeep of your heart, mind, and soul.
So let's make way for our Heavenly Father to come in, court us, and shower us with His love.
Prepare to lend your hearts to Him in worship, as He loves on you deeply!
FYI: You still have time to sign up for this dope event!
I love the woman. Not just because I am a woman, but because she's another one of God's most remarkable works of art. Pulled from the man to be a capable co-partner for him and to assist in meeting the demands of this grand luxe garden called Eden.
The architecture of a woman is simply divine. Not only was the woman sculpted in such a way to appeal to man's eyes, but also in a way to receive the man's seed.
Ultimately launching this momentous phenomenon; childbirth.
Her womb is God's canvas. A literal stage where He continues His poetry in motion.
Isn't that something?
I remember crawling through the Baptist door of the Christian faith at the tender age of 22 and how my introduction to a pathological fascination for the archetypal Proverbs 31:10 woman would quickly follow.
A large portion of the early stages of my faith-walk actually involved my aspirations to be a virtuous woman, and not necessarily to be Christlike.
This mindset is what sent me down an exhausting road of a works based relationship with God. Now you may be thinking, "Tanzy, what's the matter with that? I thought faith without works is dead?"(James 2:26)
I tell you, yes. Yet, works with faith in something else other than Jesus is, IDOLATRY.
OOOOoOOOOHHH!!
*And the crowd goes craaaazy!*
Ha!
Here we go with that idolatry word again. I know. I know. But just because it keeps popping up in different ways doesn't mean it shouldn't be addressed.
Anyway, I as well as a host of other women around me at that time were in a feverish pursuit to be this seemingly amazing woman,
("more amazing than ourselves")
so that we could eventually be found by a noble character of a man.
We made her a hallmark. Drowning in discouragement, disappointment, and depression, while killing ourselves to fit the bill of this woman.
So who is she, again? The bible says she's industrious, she's a business woman, a great negotiator and great communicator, a nurturer, considerate, highly respected, compassionate, ethical, hard working, creative, honorable, proactive, and last but not least, God fearing.
I believe I can pin-point just how the misconception came to being and mutated into a mandate that meant neglecting all of our personal outside affairs to delve deeply into the cares of the church while disregarding the consequences of replacing our affections in Christ with that of a composite of a woman.
I believe this was triggered by twisted teaching, titillating our desires to be married and nothing else. Thus rendering us slaves to the church and our own fantasies.
Listen to me, the Proverbs 31:10 woman is not a directive of what a woman should be but an advertisement of who she already is, in God!
Does that make sense?
If you re-read the description I shared above of who this woman is, something should resonate with you. You shouldn't be taken aback as if it's foreign.
Proverbs 31:10, is not a biblical Mona Lisa or portrait of some random woman.
It's YOUR selfie!
When you're in God and extending your efforts to be close to Him, your virtuousness is inevitable.
Proverbs 31:10, is none other than the female extension of the fruit of the spirit.
It's not a to do list of goals that you must check off once you've met them.
Now, believe it or not, I've only scratched the surface.
You want to go deep sea diving with me?
One day, I was talking to a close friend and we were discussing the origins of some of our toxic behaviors. Not sure exactly how we got on the topic but it was an interesting one to say the least.
My friend opened up to me that she was always an over achiever who worked hard to excel in school and in church. She recognized at a young age that she was really good at delegating and being a leader.
She decided to thrive in this realization.
When an event at her church was in the works, she was selected by her leaders to take charge.
Of course she was elated because she would be doing what she knew she was capable of. However, she'd so happened to overhear a disgruntled adult expressing their disdain for the choice made in placing her in that particular role.
Their words, "There are other kids who are just as capable. Why wasn't one of them chosen?"
This revelation crushed her spirits to the point she took it upon herself, going forward to step back. She would purposely dim her light and dumb herself down to appease the others.
She noticed that this behavior didn't go away but grew up with her and turned into a stronghold.
In her sharing her truth, I could hear my own stronghold squealing like a pig ready for slaughter.
I grew up practically with the same happy go lucky attitude to excel and be a leader of sorts.
I was also an over achiever with unrelenting passion.
My issue was, because my dad suffered from a drug addiction and my mom suffered from depression since she had to bear the burden of being a mother and surrogate father at the same time, there was no place for me neither my siblings to be emotionally nurtured and tended to. I realized early, that if I performed really well at whatever I set my focus on,
I would be granted some attention.
Even though it would be like being drip fed love and affection, I still craved this little amount. And just like my friend, my issue grew up with me, following me to the church house. There is where I noticed if I performed favorably on a regular basis, my longings for love and affection would be satiated by the authority figures in my church and a potential husband of whom I thought would be bequeathed to me because of good works.
I moved this way for years.
My God! Me and my friend came to the conclusion that whatever a woman doesn't receive from her parents during the foundational phases of her life or is stripped of at that stage, corruption will almost certainly seep into her spirit and hinge itself to her personality.
Ezekial 16:8
Then I passed by you and saw you, and you were indeed at the age for love. So I spread the edge of my garment over you and covered your nakedness. I pledged myself to you, entered into a covenant with you—this is the declaration of the Lord God—and you became mine.
A scripture that will forever be a favorite of mine, exemplifies God's loving kindness and compassion. He's so ever mindful of us and desires to take special care of His children.
God dotes on His daughters and He is very protective.
It pains Him to see us misguided and misled.
He's coming after us with intense tender love and care to gird us up and strengthen us.
To my women of God reading this right now, I extend encouragement to you.
Hold your head up high beautiful darlings!
Let the light of Jesus shine on your lovely faces!
You are already a virtuous woman. You are already all that and a bag of hot funions! Haha!
Your mission should not be encased by none other than a desire to be like Christ.
You have already been engraved with unique attributes.
And whoever notices, splendid! Whoever doesn't, all's well! Nothing can take away from this fact that you were indeed fearfully and wonderfully made.
You can always be better than who you are. But you will never be less than who God already made you to be, unless you choose to be.
Nothing is wrong with being a ministerial instrument, just be careful not to abandon your personal affairs especially that which involves the upkeep of your heart, mind, and soul.
So let's make way for our Heavenly Father to come in, court us, and shower us with His love.
Prepare to lend your hearts to Him in worship, as He loves on you deeply!
FYI: You still have time to sign up for this dope event!
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